Inspired by my friend Mel's blog, I got to wondering if I had a way of communicating back to various points of my life, what would I say to my younger self?
Early Teens: "Don't let the bastards get you down, why do you care what all the other people think? Be nice but don't bother with anyone who wastes your time, you're worth more than that. Learn to shrug stuff off; why should you get embarrassed by anything? Keep listening to the music you like; those bands will always be worth it and the stuff everyone thinks is cool will be forgotten in about 3 years.
You will one day have a boyfriend, drink alcohol, have cool friends and even drive a car, but just wait and be patient, they aren't the end of the world. Oh, and do what ever the hell you want with your hair and clothes, Mum can't stay mad forever about things like that!"
Mid-late teens: "You're going to go through crap you can't begin to imagine, and it's not your fault. But it's not anyone else's fault either, so don't treat people as if it is. Whatever has caused your misery can't be changed, but you can make the rest of your life a better time. Accept yourself for who you are; you are beautiful, creative, lovely, wonderful person who lights up so many people's lives though you might not know it. Also, check out Scrubs, turns out Peter was right! Get on with your driving test too.
"When the rest of the nightmare kicks off remember who you have around you. They're going to need you for support just as much as you need them. And sometimes unlikely and tight bonds can form between people, treasure that. The pain of loss gets easier with time."
Uni: "Stick to your principles, stick with the right people, don't copy what everyone else does just because it's the done thing. Have a drink, go out, have fun, but don't live the life they do. Pick who you live with carefully, it's much easier living with people who share your values and beliefs and aren't totally miserable cows. And don't slag off your lecturers.
"Look for a job before you graduate, it's much tougher than you'd imagine. Plan ahead and get yourself organised. And save your money!"
Post-uni: "You end up living with a guy called Tom who you're in love with and he makes you get lizards as pets. The phase doesn't pass; you get at least 3, but it's ok because you secretly love them to bits. Job hunting is really demoralising but don't give up hope, and try new things. But as soon as you know you can't seriously stay in the job just get yourself out of there; your health isn't worth it and few people enjoy call centre work."
Anyone with a bit more wisdom got any advice they can give me for now?
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